My Heart Says Ethiopia

I’ve finally selected the country – Ethiopia!

All weekend there were signs that pointed me in the direction of Ethiopia. It’s almost like the country is calling me there. It’s hard to explain and sounds a bit silly but that is the best way I can describe it. TV that I watched said Ethiopia, my dreams took place in Ethiopia, my mind was always on Ethiopia. So I felt that it was the path I am to take. I also spoke to my social worker and she also compared my options and told me her opinion was for me to go to Ethiopia. Everything I feel has been confirmed that I am on the right path. Now I must have faith in the rest, that God will provide me with what I need to bring my child home one day.

So now comes the fun part…riiiiight. Paperwork and lots of it. I looked at the application and I have some medical paperwork I need to find in order to complete the application. Since my mom is currently living with me, I found out that she will also need to be fingerprinted for the US as well as for USCIS (immigration), get a physical (although not as extensive as mine), driver’s license clearance, child protective clearance for our current state as well as from the state she moved from. I feel terrible having her go through this portion of the process just for it to be removed from the paperwork once she decides to move into her own apartment. But what will happen, will happen.

I have a yard sale ready for Saturday (pray it doesn’t rain) that will help me raise money for the application, which is $400. I’ve even asked for donations from a couple of friends to help out and they are both checking to see what they have  to donate. I am taking another bloggers idea to put a sign in the yard stating that this is for adoption and if they want to donate more, they are welcome to.

I am very blessed to have my friends in my life to have someone to talk to about everything and for them to be my support. I am also blessed that my mom is local during this process and after. She will be a grandma one day and it means the world to me that she will be in his/her life.

Choosing a Country

You would think that selecting a country would be one of the easiest part of this process and maybe it will end up being that way, however as a single woman, my choices are very limited in the countries that allow single applicants. I have been researching countries since at least Feb 2012 and had China as my number one pick, with Ethiopia a close second, and Hungary as a third contender. After I attended an information session, Russia has been added to the mix, however they clearly stated that the program is unstable and requires 2-4 trips so it makes it one of the most costly programs available. China has also closed adoption for single women except for special needs children. And now Ethiopia has tighten its process up which could add on years to the whole process.

I am very frustrated today because I don’t know which path to take. I know there is no rush but I would need to know which country before the home study is complete, so I’d rather not begin the process until I have reached a decision. Does anyone have a crystal ball? Is there anyone out there who started the adoption process with Ethiopia this year, 2012, who can shed a bit of their information with me? Right now my heart strings are pulling for Ethiopia and Russia and I’m not sure what to do. Maybe I need to sleep on it a bit longer and see if a decision comes to me.

Do others have this same difficulty in choosing a country or am I making this harder than it needs to be? I don’t mind waiting – so should I just go with Ethiopia and let whatever happens, happen? Perhaps by the weekend I’ll have a clearer picture of the path I should take my journey on.