Empty Chairs by Stacey Danson

emptychairsbookcoverEmpty Chairs is an autobiography of Stacey Danson. She wrote this book in such a way that you get so involved in her story that you feel like you are there, living it, along with her memories.

It’s well written. It’s detailed enough. It’s horrific. It’s sad. It’s inspiring. It’s shocking. It’s scary. It’s read.

Once you get past the beginning of her story of child abuse at such a terribly young age that you almost can’t believe that something like this would happen. But it did.

She provides a wonderful visual of what life on the streets can be like. You feel what she felt. It makes you look at people who live on the streets…differently.

She is an amazing person, to be able to live through everything she has and has the outlook on life that she does. This would crush many if they had to bare these same memories. She was, most of the time, very smart and used great judgement on how she selected where to sleep each night. She walked around while learning all about the world that she never knew about when she was young.

I recommend this book to everyone.

I was shocked to see how the book ended, leaving you not knowing what happened. I learned that many felt the same way so she wrote a second book to continue her story – Faint Echoes of Laughter

I can’t wait to continue reading tonight!

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My Life in Words

I’ve started writing my autobiography for the adoption agency. I didn’t get far though. If someone were to ask you to write about your life using a guideline of questions, your first thought might be…oh that will be easy. Well it’s not. Not for me.

Once I sit down in front of the laptop and try to write, it’s amazing how quickly a draw a blank. I look at these questions and can’t figure out what to write. For example, “Based on each place you’ve lived, describe what kind of neighborhood and types of friendships you had in that location or in your school that were rewarding or disappointing” Really??? I don’t remember where I lived five years ago and they want me to remember where I lived when I was five years old and what the neighborhood was like and the kinds of friendships I had?

Should I just summarize the fact that I don’t recall names of friends or what my neighborhood was like if I can’t remember?

I look ahead at the upcoming questions there is a whole section on religion. Great.

When I was younger my mom and I went to church every Sunday. I can’t even remember what age I was when we stopped going, but I haven’t been since. I think part of it was my anger at God for taking Rob away. Sounds stupid and silly I know, but at that time that was a big part of my thoughts. I don’t have that anger today, but I haven’t found my way back to the church. I still have my beliefs and my moral compass is in tack. Does it make me a bad person for not going? Will I be a bad mother because I’ve been out of touch with God and the church?

I feel like by them devoting an entire section to religion that it could be a key factor in this adoption. Since Rob died, I’ve always said that when I do have children I plan on raising them up with beliefs, which involves me taking them to church. I don’t have a problem with that as I want my child to have that experience and knowledge of the Bible. So in my autobiography, should I say exactly that?

Part of me fears that I will put something in this autobiography which will sway them in the wrong direction ending with me not being approved to adopt a child.

Anyone have any experience with that or advice?