Upcoming Follow-up Visit with Doctor

Now that the holidays are pretty much over with, I called the doctors office to finally get my follow-up visit scheduled. It’s for Jan 17. I’m sure she will want to move to IVF and the more I think about…yes, I know, I wasn’t supposed to be thinking about this during the holidays, it doesn’t seem all that bad, except for the cost.

I called and spoke with the financial counselor at Shady Grove Fertility Center to find out how much it cost. He gave me a price for a single cycle and another price for the multi-cycle. Of course the multi-cycle is about 5k more but you get two fresh cycles and one frozen transfer cycle, or whatever they call it. But the downside to this is if I get pregnant on the first IVF attempt, I don’t get refunded the difference.

So I worked on my 2014 budget to see how I can pay off my credit card debt. I can have all that paid off by June/July-ish. Not too bad but I’m not sure I can wait. In fertility time, that is forever! So I found some financial loans that I’m going to try and apply for but I worry that none of them will accept me. My credit is so-so, unfortunately.

So for those out there that have done IVF after IUI attempts, are there questions that you wish you had asked that I should ask during my follow-up? I’m putting together a list of questions so I don’t forget and I’m sure there will be some I didn’t even think of.

I’m a planner, so I try to learn, do, and prepare as much as possible before certain things, like this follow-up visit.

Any questions and advice ALWAYS welcome! I’m going this alone so I welcome any help.

 

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IUI #3

I hope I can get back to blogging about my journey, and blog more frequently. I just finished IUI #3 and this past Monday I went in to the doctor for my beta test (pregnancy test). I took two home tests the Friday and Saturday before and both were negative so I was convinced that it would be a negative. I waited for the call and the phone rang after lunch to confirm what I ready knew – big fat negative!

I’m sad. I try to stay positive or at least appear positive but deep down I wonder if it will ever happen to me. Everyone around me is getting pregnant and it makes me jealous. I hate feeling that way but I do. I’ve wanted to be a mother for 17 years now. Maybe I waited too long to try on my own. Maybe I’m not meant to be a mother. That’s just the sad part of me talking but she has said those things. The positive side keeps saying that it will happen, it just might take more work since I’m 38. It’s a constant battle between parts.

The doctor wants me to schedule a FUV (follow-up visit) to talk about things and next steps. I’m pretty sure she will say that the next steps should be IVF. I’m okay with that but don’t have the money right now which keeps me sad. I don’t know the actual cost yet but I hear it could be between 10-15k. And who has that? I don’t. I’m single, remember? I decided to wait until the beginning of January to meet with my doctor. I don’t want any bad news to ruin my holiday and I’m thinking of worst case scenario, like based on your three IUI’s, you have a 1% chance of getting pregnant even with IVF.

I did contact my insurance and they do cover it but only for married couples. It’s not fair. Makes me so mad and upset that singles get different treatment than married couples. Even if insurance doesn’t provide the same coverage, anything helps.

So that’s where I am now. Waiting for my FUV and then I can figure out what to do. Any advice? Anywhere I can get a loan for those who have a lot of debt?

 

The Wait Might Be Longer

I’ve been waiting for my next cycle so I can try IUI round #2. As I sit here staring at my desk calendar and checking my menstrual app, it appears I’m going to start on August 28th! But wait, a Wednesday? I’ve been starting on a Sunday/Monday for years. So I begin counting the days in my app and it looks like it could be that weekend before. Normally this wouldn’t be a big deal EXCEPT that I am going away for business from the 26-28th. So now I’m beginning to worry that she will arrive while I’m out of town. Then I’ll have to wait another month. Oh this is torture!

I’m trying to stay busy – working on my art, getting ready for an art show, trying to date a new guy, work out in the yard and the list goes on. But now that I’m approaching this possible round #2 date, I’m panicking! I know I shouldn’t and whatever happens, happens but that is so much easier to say than to do.

Let’s hope that it arrives on the 28th and all will be good in the world. 🙂

IUI Day

Was today! And it went well. After they washed the sperm, they said that they are happy to get 5 million but mine was 15 million. And the progression level was around 1 something but after it was washed it jumped up to between 3 and 4. I asked them what the progression level meant and it basically means that the higher the number, the more likely they will be able to find the eggs. So overall the donor sperm I selected seemed to be a good choice. Let’s hope that it works!

I’m a bit crampy but they said that is from the trigger shot. I wonder how long it lasts. It’s not terrible but I can definitely feel it.

Now I wait until July 19th for the pregnancy test.

 

Follow-Up with my Doctor

So this is the first big day…I get to hear the results of all my tests and find out what the game plan is going to be.

She tells me that my tests are very typical of a 38 year old. Some blood work numbers were within reason and some were borderline. She also said that I have a low egg reserve which means that I could possibly go into early menopause. But there are no studies to indicate this, it’s just her prediction.

The game plan is to try Intrauterine Insemination (IUI).

She gave me a visual of three different methods of approach:

  1. Casual – This would include fertility pills + trigger shot
  2. Moderate – This would include fertility pills + fertility injection + trigger shot
  3. Aggressive – In Vitro Fertilization (IVF)

She recommended the Moderate method but if I wasn’t comfortable with that, we can do the Casual method. I said let’s go for the Moderate!

What does that mean? Well, I will take fertility pills for five days, which will help produce eggs, then I will give myself a fertility injection, which will also help produce eggs. The trigger shot is done to precisely predict when I will ovulate. Then the insemination!

So the meds have been ordered and should arrive June 25th, 2013. Some have to be refrigerated and the others can remain at room temperature.

My next action item is to call the office when I am on cycle day (CD) 1. This will begin the process.