You would think picking a donor would be easy. It’s not. In fact, I think it’s worse because you have access to everything about them, their family medical history, essay questions, their profile, college grades, the list just goes on. When you are dating someone or you’re about to marry someone, you don’t know all that information.

I have to order donor sperm again. The last two IVF’s I used the same donor and his last attempt did result in a pregnancy (but I miscarried). So do I go with the same donor or choose a different one. I’ve had mixed suggestions.

I narrowed down my favorites again and upgraded my subscription so I can see ALL their information. Part of this subscription is seeing childhood photos, usually three of them. So I have two selected. The original one that I’ve been using and a new one.

Option 1 – The original donor (6’4″, tall dark and handsome firefighter with dimples, 206lbs, straight thick hair)

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Option 2 – The new option (6’2″, they say unique hazel eyes, 180lbs, thick wavy hair)

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So I’d love to get your opinion. Comment which option you like and if you want, why. I know most people use their husbands sperm so it might be hard to answer this question but any help is appreciated. I’m single and can’t decide what I want more, dimples or hazel eyes, 6’4″ or 6’2″. This is so stupid, isn’t it? HELP!

11 thoughts on “I need help with my…..Stupid Dilemma

      • Yeah, hazel eyes change depending on what you’re wearing, they have multiple colors in them. I have hazel eyes and some people swear they are blue, others green, and other times the ring of yellow around the center really shines. A lot depends on the lighting, too. That’s one of the things that makes them so interesting, I guess.

  1. I liked the banks that provide baby & adult photos, plus all that extra stuff like interviews, med history, personality tests, etc. I feel that if I were planning to get married to or have a kid with someone, I sure as shit would know all of these things or at least the majority. The baby photos are adorable, but the adult photo helped me decide whether it was a donor I actually thought I might want to procreate with. It’s not easy! Good luck! (Btw, the second kid on there has beautiful eyes… I’m a sucker for great eyes.)

    • I’m okay with just childhood photos. I mean most of them want to remain anonymous and if they have adult photos they aren’t so anonymous. I do see all the other stuff though. I can say that when I was married and we were trying for kids, I didn’t know his family medical history. I knew him well too. So you just never know exactly everything about a person.

      • True. Although I can’t say I know what their process is but option 1 had a good family history and option 2 only showed him having ADD. I’m not sure if that should concern me or if it’s not that big of a deal. I don’t know anyone with ADD to have any experience with it.

  2. I’m in a similar boat as you and I think option 2 is so cute! Why not try something new. Option one hasn’t been the perfect choice so far. Shake it up! Take a leap. I mean isn’t that what we are doing anyway!!! Take another one! I pray 2015 is an amazing year for you!

    • Option 1 did get me pregnant, it just ended in miscarriage. So that’s why it’s so hard to know what to do. My leaps have been happening for a while. This is my last try so that’s why it has become a dilemma for me. I just don’t know what is the right thing to do.

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